This Too Shall Pass

I debated wether to send this email or not. Then I thought
people need to hear this message.

The holiday season is known for many a wonderful things. But it's also
known for the outrageous numbers of divorces couples experience
this time of year.

I know, a real pick me up to start off the letter, it does get better. I promise.

Here's my belief as to why this happens. I think the media paints this
un-reality version of what Christmas is or “should” be in the minds of people.

It's kind of like those UN-reality “reality” shows.

This then sets a false expectation for how the holidays “should” be
in the minds of the average American.

Now don't take me the wrong way, I enjoy the holidays very much.

I think one should experience the holidays
being thankful for the gifts they have been given
and not just the ones under the tree.

But there was one Christmas that wasn't too pleasant
or maybe I can reframe it and say it was the perfect gift of
awareness.

I'll never forget Christmas Eve one year when my wife took
our daughter and walked out on me.
I don't like to go into too much detail because
of the pain it brings just thinking about it.

I sat alone in my bedroom in the dark summoning the courage
to deal with my reality.

Some time passed and we eventually separated.

Now I had two choices – continue to bury my head in the sand or
step up and be accountable for helping to put a monkey
wrench into our relationship.

I then made a call to a friend who
helped me see the light. The light wasn't pointing the figure
at my wife.

It was dealing with what I brought to the table to help
get it to the brink of divorce. It takes two to Tango ya know.
I believe everyone needs a friend like that. One who helps you
see all sides.

Thanks Jim.

We've been back together for some years now.
My wife and I consider that time a wake-up call
for our marriage.

If you are someone facing a challenging personal situation
one of my favorite sayings is
”Trouble Won't Last Always, This Too Shall Pass.”
It's a comforting feeing and it's true.

In football, if ever faced with a good butt kickin in
the first half, coach had a plan at half time. He'd gather us in and
make mid course adjustments. It's part of the game, it's a part of life.
He'd then holler at those glazed-over and unfocused, regroup and inspire us
for the second half.

On many occasions we went out and whooped on the other team
leaving them shocked and stunned.

If you are one whose life is frustrating and with no light at the end of
the tunnel. It can NOT continue to last- you will eventually get through it.
Make your mid-course course corrections and remember
there's always the “Second Half.“

Your life from here on out can be readjusted, retooled, and reshaped
the way you want it. You can take full control of the reigns
to direct your horse and buggy in the direction you really desire.

I'll be announcing my newest creation that
brings you instant peace of mind as you flow through life and
all its wonderful challenges.

Keep a look out for it.

Best,

Vince Palko

Ps. I'm so glad my wife and I didn't become a statistic.
We have us and two lovely daughters (with one bun in the oven)
to be extremly thankful for this year and every year.